This week has been one filled with warm(er) weather and a lot of time spent catching up with some of my closest friends. Now, I am an extroverted person who has a lot of friends. One of the reasons to explain this is that my number one strength, as stated by the Clifton Strengths Finder Assessment, is developer. Being a developer means, “You see potential in others. Very often, in fact, potential is all you see. In your view no individual is fully formed. On the contrary, each individual is a work in progress, alive with possibilities. And you are drawn toward people for this very reason.” (Strength Finders 2.0 from Gallup, pp 89). Needless to say, there are not many people that I meet and do not like because I see the potential for everyone to grow and change.
So, over the years I have gathered up a lot of friends. I love getting to know people and be alongside them in their life journey. The only downside to this is sometimes I’m not always able to keep up with everybody. As life goes on, people get busy, people go other directions from one another, and it is just plain hard to get together. It is the sad truth of life that sometimes people just grow apart from one another. The good part is if it is a true friendship you will always find your way back to one another like no time has passed at all.
This is why I am starting to focus more on being intentional with the friendships that I have. I have recently reconnected with one of my closest friends that I had lost touch with for awhile, and let me tell you, it has been the best! Every time we get together we non-stop talk for hours and I am reminded every time that God puts specific people in our lives to be friends forever.
As much as I love making new friends, I also need to remember to invest in those that are already in my life. I want to be intentional with checking in on people, inviting them out to lunch, sending a postcard or text of encouragement, and investing well in the friends that I have.
I know God has given me the gift of being a developer in order to help as many people that I can, but I also need to focus on the people that are already in my life. I am sure I will continue meeting me people and developing new friendships this year, but I will also be more intentional in developing the relationships I already have. “These signs of growth in others are your fuel. They bring you strength and satisfaction. Over time many will seek you out for help and encouragement because on some level they know that your helpfulness is both genuine and fulfilling to you.” It is my hope that people see is in me, that I genuinely try to help every person I can and see potential in each and every human being.
Thank you to my friends past, present, and future. You all have played a huge role in my life and I want each of you to know how much potential for greatness lives inside of you. I will always be here for everyone.